From cyberspace bullying to school shootings, the news is filled with examples of youthful anger run amok.<\/p>\n
When I hear about the latest violent act involving young people, I feel for the victims and their families. I also feel for the perpetrator, who possibly never learned to manage his or her anger before it turned deadly.<\/p>\n
What a loss.<\/p>\n
Anger is a completely normal, necessary human emotion. But when it has no healthy means of escape, the consequences can be tragic. For good or bad, we learn how to cope with life\u2019s conflicts from experience and from those who shape us, including parents, teachers, friends and mentors.<\/p>\n
In my line of work, I\u2019ve seen that young people who have learned to effectively manage their anger and resolve conflicts are more resilient to life\u2019s stresses, disappointments and hurts. The earlier they learn those strategies the better, but it\u2019s never too late.<\/p>\n
Daniel Hanson, who coordinates our violence prevention services here at Youth Eastside Services, goes into the schools to talk to kids ages nine to 18 about bullying, aggression and anger.<\/p>\n
When it comes to aggression, he says, a fourth grader isn\u2019t much different from a high school senior. Ultimately, he says, it comes down to a lack of power and control. They may be feeling oppressed themselves, so they turn to bullying, teasing and name calling to make themselves feel better.<\/p>\n
It should come as no surprise that anger \u201cstyles\u201d \u2013 that is, how we react to anger \u2013 are passed down from our parents. Ever wonder how your kids know just how to push your hot buttons?<\/p>\n
The good news is that parents who want to help their children handle their anger in positive ways have a tremendous role to play. When children see us stop, take a breath, and talk things through without resorting to violence, they learn to do it themselves.<\/p>\n
Besides setting a good example, here are some other things parents can do to help their children stay cool:<\/p>\n
Encourage your child to talk about her feelings and offer support. Anger often covers up other emotions, like fear or sadness.<\/p>\n
Practice anger-management behaviors. Some common techniques include counting to 10, thinking calming thoughts, deep breathing and using \u201cI\u201d statements (\u201cI get annoyed when . . . \u201c versus \u201cYou are annoying.\u201d)<\/p>\n
Help your child or teen release anger through exercise, music, writing or drawing.<\/p>\n
Last but not least, be aware of the signs of a more serious problem. If your child stays angry for a long time, withdraws from family and friends and is damaging himself or his property, seek professional help.<\/p>\n
\u2018Parenting Lifeline\u2019 is a monthly column in Reporter newspapers by Patti Skelton-McGougan, executive director of Youth Eastside Services. Since 1968, For more information, call 425-747-4937 or go to www.youtheastsideservices.org<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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